Using your sober time well
You are very likely to feel as if you have more free time when you become alcohol free. You may be choosing to socialise less in the early days and/ or you may feel like you have more clarity and energy which changes your perception of time and you want to capitalise on that.
In the early days it’s good to learn more about the benefits of an alcohol free life which are huge, and how other people are managing their early sober lives as this will help to reinforce your mind set and also help you to feel as if you are part of a growing community of likeminded people. Choose a way of finding out more that suits you - read books/ blogs, listen to podcasts or watch YouTube clips/ Ted talks etc. Perhaps take up offers of free trials on well-established sober community sites such as Soberistas or ClubSoda It’s good to spend at least a little time each day doing this at the outset of your life lived well sober as you will learn so much from others who are taking the same path and you will feel like part of a community.
It is also important to spend time imagining what living well sober means to you. Do you want to try new things? Do you want more peace of mind? Do you want to focus on your physical health? How might you start to put your intentions into practice? Do you want be a better parent, sibling or friend? What would that look like and how might you become the person you want to be?
But let me emphasise here that there’s absolutely no rush to start doing anything. The most important thing to focus upon in the early days and weeks is quite simply not drinking. As I’ve said before there will always be occasions and times where you are in situations where you used to drink and these are going to be triggers (to varying extents) in the first few weeks and months. So planning how you are going to manage these is important. On a day-to-day basis it is important to remember to never question the decision, otherwise known as NQTD and to keep on keeping on KOKO.
As the sober days and weeks build up you will gain more confidence in handling triggers and this will provide more headspace for you to start to build the life that you want. Coaching can support you from the outset in terms of developing strategies that suit you for managing trigger situations and identifying what it is that you actually want to get out of life now that you are sober.